Thursday, June 21, 2012

Grade 6 Was So Last Year


We had her hair styled (alas, all the curls fell out due to humidity) and she chose the necklace (from her collection) - which works great with the outfit, IMO.


The graduation event was surprisingly emotional - and has inspired intense discussion (some of it very sad, very deep) between me and Scott.

I wish for my child that she will take the sustenance of her longstanding community into a new one, to find what thrills her creatively, what intrigues her intellectually. I see her on the precipice, between childhood and independence, and I hope this next phase will be kind. I hope she finds her place. I hope she makes wonderful friends she will know when she is 42. I hope that I can nurture her through the next phase, that my compulsion to fulfill my own creative goals doesn't impinge on my ability to parent her well. I love my girl, even though it's hard for me to be somebody's mother. I hope she understands.

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  1. Wow... someone's the spittin' image of her mother :)

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    1. I don't think so, but comments here seem to be corroborating your perspective!

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  2. She really does look like you! You're both so beautiful! I hope she knows how much you care for her, and it's so sweet to read your heartfelt concerns for her. Best of luck to you both as you approach a new stage of life together!

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    1. Thank you so much for this lovely comment. We happily take your wishes for luck :-)

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  3. Aww! Gorgeous. :)

    Tyo's is next week. It hasn't been a good end to the year, so I'm really just wanting it over with.

    I think maintaining your own creativity and independence is important as a mother. It doesn't mean you're neglecting your child---it means that you're still you, and what better message can we send our kids?

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    1. Thanks T! And I hear you about maintaining one's individual creativity (it's my motto), but it's hard to find a balance. I sense you are better at that than me. Can't wait to hear about T's grad.

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  4. She is beautiful!, and so are the sentiments you express for her.

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  5. Can't help but echo Ms. Modiste's Wow -- that is a gorgeous young girl-woman who emanates a stunning sense of self. She strikes me as being poised for greatness! Or at least for rocking her teen years and possibly causing major hair loss in her mama and dad. Congratulations and good luck to all of you!

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    1. Thank you! My hair is already on the fine side :-) I find it funny that she poses for pics just like I do. Probably comes from years of watching me getting photoed (and now she is the photog!)

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  6. She looks lovely! I agree she looks so much like you.

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  7. So grown up. Be there when those 7th year bitches get jealous and start pecking each other to death like a bunch of chooks. Leave the rest to her xx

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    1. Oh, I will be! It's a scary new frontier.

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  8. She does look exactly like you! Grown up & gorgeous already :)

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    1. It's amazing the difference a year makes :-)

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  9. Your daughter is a beauty and she seems quite self-possessed for someone so young. I'm not at all surprised the event was emotional. I have a feeling you are a very good Mom.

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    1. Susan: M read the comments and said to me, when she got to this one: what is self-possessed? (which I thought was hilarious) Thank you for your lovely comment. It was much more emotional than I could have imagined it would be.

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  10. Aww, lovely girl, lovely dress. And yup, looks like you!

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    1. You have to see her father - then you'll change your mind. :-)

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  11. Garde 6. She's 11, right? Or 12? Not yet "on the precipice, between childhood and independence." That's about five years from now. Slow down a bit.

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    1. Hatty: I sense you may not have a 12 yo girl right now. It really is different than it was when we were this age, at least where I live.

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  12. Grade 6, yes right on the cusp. She is beautiful and looks to have gotten a good bit of her mom's looks, style, and flare.

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  13. Thanks Mardel! What a lovely compliment to us both.

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